7 Steps to Diffuse any Angry Emotional Situation

Recognize that an Angry Emotional Response is a Habit

Angry Emotional Situation

You’ve lived long enough and have experienced many social faux pas. So, when you get caught off guard in a potentially emotionally troubling situation, what is your reaction? Our natural response is to behave the ways we always did. Our habits dive into our past behavioural patterns based on our past beliefs and/or experiences. In other words and more likely than not, a defensive behaviour occurs.

It may be for any reason, but strong love, highly charged events, very serious commitments and anything with strong emotions are attached to the situations.

Rightly or wrongly it really does not matter. If neither begins to realize the potential emotional hazard forming, then a flare-up is imminent. The emotionally challenged ego has a strong chance of saying something that might be regrettable.

It isn’t always easy to maintain the peace at first, but with the right intention and continual strong desire it is possible. Sometimes, it can be just a misunderstanding. But a disciplined habit of desiring love and peace, it is always possible to do so.

The 7 Steps to get out of any Angry Emotional Situation.

1) Instead of continuing the conversation, take a couple of deep silent breaths and give cause for paucity. This gives the same signal to the other person to do the same too.

2) If the conversation need to be continued, than continue without adding anymore blames of rights or wrongs.

3) Make sure the conversation is leading towards a desired and successful outcome. Say something nice or even use a smile or use a nice gesture to divert the attention. Like, “Let’s have a drink?”

4) If there seem to be a real continuing issue of an injured ego or emotion, realize this is the emotion you are dealing with…yours and your friend. Yes, friend, not foe. Who is right or wrong gets the angry emotions engaged. Instead of losing perspective of the situation, take the opportunity to know the other person a little better. In fact understand that your words or actions may have set something off. So, say something nice again, or even apologize if you seem to have offended. If it’s the other way around, then let the issue go. You’re friends remember? Your friend will remember that too.

5) If the desire is to advance forward and gain momentum for achievement, clarity prevails. Both win when both remains on cordial terms.

6) Use your powerful will and intention to keep a great air of peace, respect and desire the right words to maintain friendship. It’s amazing what your cool head and strong will can accomplish. This can work even in a hostile crowd.

7) All else fails? If this relationship is still valuable, try a peace offering. Begin with saying something nice, then something you can praise that other person with, declare you want to be friends and your main intention is to have a fruitful outcome and relationship. Being so upfront almost always disarms and hostility.

Want to read more? Try reading Dale Carnegie’s immortal book, “How to win friends and influence people”.