A frightened child caught my attention and just about broke my heart. Just talking with her gave her some comfort. Simply put, she did not feel secure in her new school. Very quickly, I came up with some simple tips for her to feel secure. I felt really pleased with myself as she showed her beautiful smile. Obviously, she’s going to be attracting lots of boys in a dozen or so years. Then I wondered if I could indeed create a simple way for anyone to feel secure anywhere they may be.
Feeling Insecure
Is This Tortoise Feeling Secure?
We’ve all been there, in that uncertain and often frightening place within our minds. The feeling of insecurity is a very normal part of growing up, but it does become quite debilitating when that feeling overwhelms. Amazingly, psychologists have a number of ways to explain this feeling that affects behaviour. The most common are termed under phobias – the fear of something or other. If you fear open spaces, there is a fancy name for that. The fear of schools has one as well. Name it and it’s got a name.
And yes, it’s some sort of fear…usually, but what if it was a child just missing her parents? What does one term a child just scared out of her wits because she was expecting things to go one way but the new stuff simply gave her the feeling of being overwhelmed? Could one say she was just scared? What it seems to me is that the medical industry has so many creations of apparent diseases of the mind even if it’s a thought. Well, what is apparent is not real isn’t it? If something is not real, well then, isn’t it possible to dispel those ‘not real things’ – just like fears and guilt?
The 3 Simple Steps To Feel Secure
The key idea are thoughts first and the feeling of self security. But never the less, here are 3 simple steps to bring you into line with feeling secure anywhere.
1) Quick calming meditation.
Well, but of course! I know this. But be honest and count the number of times you NEVER do this. I already know the answer and it is almost never. Unless you practice this all the time, you are not likely to be accomplished in this method.
The quick calming meditation is really just taking control of your emotions. Breathe deeply several times, feel your mind calming itself. This is going into alpha brain waves and it readies you to do anything. Learn this and you can teach anyone to stay calm including yourself.
Just a word about its effectiveness. You MUST be in alpha before you try to help anyone else in an emergency situation. Otherwise, you will be spreading more unwanted panic energy. As like attracts, calming energy from you will spread.
2) Think you’re always safe.
Use any method you care to. For a child, it may be the thoughts that a great guardian is always watching over her. This is very powerful security. In fact, I still use it when I go into spooky or nasty looking places.
For someone else it might be to remind yourself that a hero in your life is always guiding you. Some people envision themselves with a body guard of immensely powerful abilities.
Perhaps you can surround yourself with a powerful safe energy. This acts like a shield. Even soldiers have thought this way and they say it always gives them comfort in the most frightening of times and it’s amazing how many who thought this way have returned to tell the tale.
3) Think someone will always come to help you.
Have you ever found yourself in a tight jam like having lost your wallet? Perhaps you’re on a holiday and lost your way?
Do not dismiss help in the way that may not be typical. Those powerful emotions unleash vibes that call upon the help you may need – right now. That need may come in the form of a dirty looking beggar downtown. This person may know where you are at and since they have learnt to survive in that neck of the concrete jungle, their advice might be worthwhile.
Perhaps an animal leading you down a path to more familiar places might just happen when you’re lost in a forest. I’ve been out on a mountain trek and completely lost my way in the cloudy parts. Of course, a whole string of emotions came along to scare myself. But these emotions are powerful and my desire to find safety was strong. To my amazement, a dog in the distance led me down an unseen pathway to the village where I had come!
In the child’s case, she caught my attention and a few simple words from me and she was her bright self again! All I told her was, “Oh, look! Is that your guardian Angel? It looks like someone wonderful is always looking out for you. You must be a really brave and special person!”
