Cure Resentment With Pride

by BizMum

Here’s a good one. Resentment is a consistent failure habit. It’s a simple but profound answer to why many people have recurrent failures despite their best efforts and intentions. You can cure resentment with pride in what you do. Just to avoid any lengthy arguments, the answer to that is it’s opposite habit of pride. Once you can be proud of yourself or someone or something you do, then success seem to appear far more often. It’s akin to chasing the darkness away with light.

Darkness of resentment fades in the light of pride.

Resentment Is The Great Saboteur

There can be myriad causes for resentment. They can be events that caused guilt or fear or what have you. But let’s focus on the resulting emotion of resentment. The habit this causes is one of repeated failure, and done deliberately. Yes, folks when someone has a general feeling of resentment, it’s like a perpetual tantrum and that person will want to knock everything down after building it up part way.

Remember that child that has built his stack of building blocks into a tower and then deliberately kick it all down in a fit? You think that the child is so bad tempered. But really, what caused that behaviour? I was surprised that psychologists often take such a long time to identify that the child has a severe resentment caused by some event.

Often this emotion goes unrecognized for many years. Or worse, it goes deliberately buried like there was some serious family secret to be ashamed of. In fact ask yourself, was there one? Was tyhere something like a robbery or violence or abuse or even a rape? Heaven forbid! But it happens. That burying of the truth can take the form of the victim being victimized even more by being labelled as a useless bum, a hopeless person, a failure, a bad tempered person and sometimes worse.

Can you imagine carrying such a devastating thing for such a long time as it builds and builds through the decades. The victimized person is often left without self esteem and a fierce rage develops within. This person often goes through life unable to succeed in anything he or she tries. This person often gives up part way into building a success effort like a business. It is not for lack of trying or best intentions or training. It’s just that the effort of trying, develops that welling up of emotions that builds that tremendous resentment and that result of giving up prematurely and failure. As you can understand now, that resentment within that person will make him or her behave as a habitual sabateur of success and life.

Pride, The Cause To Succeed

Pride is very simply put, a habitual behaviour that can lead one to success. This is very definitely NOT arrogance. It’s simply a behaviour pattern that is the opposite of resentment. Being proud of one’s achievements is just as it says. You can be proud without being arrogant.

By the way, as an aside that I find very interesting is that the people who uses snide remarks that the proud and prudish so and so is so arrogant are likely very resentful in life. This is not to put them down, but to recognize such people. In fact, they are very definitely people with axes to grind or have big chips on their shoulders when the one whom they have labelled proud or have too much pride but you know are not are very definitely on the resentful side of life.

This pride that you carry is a habit that is a development of being successful. More success creates more successful wants and dreams. The unsuccessful will decry that successful person. In fact, being so successful, you will learn to appreciate the success of others and learn to applaud them as a habit. That act, draws more of that success atitude toward you.

So, I’ll reiterate that the idea is simple but the change can be horrendously difficult for some. Change from seeing, feeling and hearing of things, people and events as a resentful experience to being something that you can be proud of. You can cure resentment with pride in what you do.

It does require a shift in your thinking. It will take a transformation of behaviour. Ask a friend to tell you when you slip up. Ask for help in focussing on just being proud of your achievements. You can so easily do this and develop that pride. Start by using a simple journal and work at one thing at a time. You may listen to inspirational audios, videos and read great books to train your mind. You can take one step at a time over your relationships by practicing good behaviours and manners. You can work at your busines one thing at a time. Note all these things down and you will notice that these baby steps will change you from feeling resentment to feeling pride in yourself. Oh, by the way, those are also steps to success.