Quit Blaming Already! It’s like an addiction attached to the cord of our nature. To blame is habitual, unless we cut it off at the very core, we will never be free. Blaming something, anything is like an automatic defence mechanism. Something occurs and it’s “Nope, not me, he did it…or why did you do that? It’s your fault!” Anything and everything seems to trigger that behaviour. Try as you might, the blaming of someone or something else always wins. But I’ll say it right now. This behaviour is that of a loser. If someone you know has this habit you’ll realise he or she has few friends and is unlikely to take responsibility for him or herself either.
The Blame Game
Hey, quit blaming already!
So what if heated arguments arise? “I am never to blame you are!” Look up the media. It often appears that some bad guy or enemy got their just deserts as they got their entire abodes or cities blasted from under them. They deserved it right? Too bad that a thousand other people died because of these few nut cases. Yes, you blew your whole month’s budget on a more expensive new car, but it’s justified because your spouse refused to splurge on a few unaffordable luxuries. Yes, the blame game is totally unreasonable and has much ‘self justified’ anger attached to it. Isn’t it amazing that the finger pointing accuser is the one actually committing the crime?
Life’s journey has many twisted, curved pathways. We can sit and argue about it, complain why it didn’t go the way we wanted how we wish we were somewhere else, with someone and doing something else. We will be happy if only we had a job, lots of money, great relationship, good parents, good children or siblings. We attribute our unhappiness, frustration to our society, our governments, the rents, the bills, even the people that are trying to help us. No matter our lot, or success, we blame, blame and blame. Damn those blamers! Are we done BLAMING yet?
We have excuses, we have stories, we have pain and we use others to blame. This is the preferred method to hide from embarrassment or any perceived failures. Children often hear and observe their elders push the responsibility of failure about something onto them. It’s often about control or the fear of losing it. It’s learnt by the children and it is emulated verbatim and spreads like an out of control virus in a closed room. No one wants to take charge. No one wants to take responsibility for any situations and deal with it properly unless ordered to do so!
Take Responsibility!
If we are not done blaming, it simply means we do not want to be responsible for our lives. With our lives however, whatever it turns out to be, we are responsible 100% for it, no one else. Because we are responsible does not mean we are to be blamed, or it’s our fault for any issue. It simply means for whatever circumstances; we’d been vibrating that which we attract onto ourselves.
Until we are aware and recognize our abilities, our power to manifest everything around us, we continually create and co-create things we like or we don’t like. But by taking responsibility for any situation, we can really make the best of situations and correct it. In fact, taking full responsibility for our lot in life simply means we can create what delights us instead of lamenting about disasters and feeling sorry for ourselves…which creates yet more nasty things. Actually, there is one very effective thing to immediately do to alleviate any situation that arises – instead of saying “It’s your fault!” Simply say “Nothing” or “Cancel, cancel” which cancels out the blame thought in your head.
It is crucial to recognize ourselves and be aware of our own intentions, Will, thoughts, beliefs and habits. Perhaps the very first place to practice responsibility is at home with your children and your spouse. No one outside of our self is responsible for how we feel. The happiness, peace, joy, satisfaction, love, attention that we seek can genuinely and truly be given to us by ourselves, by our desires, by our willingness to change habits that were or are no longer serving its purpose. As charity begins at home, so too do kindness, love, compassion, understanding, acceptance and desires. All responsibilities begin from one self; from within. You’ll find when you have yourself centred, blame never occurs because it matter not again. Quitting the blame game becomes easy and taking responsibility becomes a respected habit.
